Welcome to Losses Become Gains! If you’ve stumbled on the LBG Journal, chances are you’re going through something tough right now. Or, you’ve already experienced a form loss you’re trying to cope with. I want to warmly welcome you to my blog, and start off by saying you are so not alone.
Who Am I?
I like to think of myself as an empathetic person who’s known to give some pretty good advice. I’m here to be a sounding board, a friendly face, and a helping hand when you need a north star. I want to be a resource you can lean on to help you through a difficult, exhausting, heartbreaking (however you want to word it) time.
After losing my mom, dad, and beloved 19-year-old dog—oh, and going through a breakup—all within two years, I had the weight of the world on my shoulders and still had to function each day. After a lot of patience, soul searching, and research, I found my happy and gained a beautiful perspective on life. My mission? To help you or loved ones struggling with any kind of loss do the same. Want to learn a little more about me? Click here!
What Losses Become Gains Is About
Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a cherished pet, relationship, job (the list goes on)—the basic principles of grief and loss can feel the same. Coping with a “new normal” and the undeniable hole in our hearts can be relatable across the board.
I want LBG to be a real, relatable resource for you. My hope is it provides you a community and tools to reframe the way you think about your loss and turn it around to gain a positive, optimistic outlook on life.
The Gist
At the beginning of each post, you’ll find what “gain” you’ll take away . With everything you read, I want to make what you’ll be getting out of the content as transparent as possible. Pretty soon, you’ll feel a renewed sense of self and begin healing in a way that will last. There’s just one thing you need to focus on here: Make your losses become your gains. I can’t wait to take this journey with you!
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I think it’s amazing that people like you exist and care and have a desire to help people. I totally get the upbeat/positivity approach. I mean, who would seek out help from someone who isn’t?? Please, don’t take my (highly unprofessional) opinion the wrong way but…some traumatic tragedies just can’t be healed. I think in these rare instances there are just coping mechanisms that become a part of this constantly changing journey. My oldest of 4 was murdered and left in our front door step on 9/5/2020. My (then) 16 year old daughter found him. He was 25 years old and the most beautiful, loving, caring soul our family has ever known. The last 8-ish weeks of his life is an unreal, complicated story. If I didn’t experience it for myself I’d never believe it hearing it from someone else. The only way to sum it up…local police and FBI failed my son and the man who murdered my child is walking free. For 3 1/2 years I’ve tried getting justice to no avail. I have an amazing traumatic grief therapist who will never know the depth of my gratitude for her. Although I may say or feel like there’s no actual healing for my journey doesn’t mean I can’t find gratitude for what I still have. And I’m ok with that. I struggle everyday. To be honest, as time goes by this grief gets much harder. I could go on and on…. I do have a webpage where I’ve blogged about what happened to my oldest and also share stories, memories, ect…. I haven’t blogged in quite some time (I know I should start again). My page is http://www.jaceslegacy.Wordpress.com. There’s a 4 part blog series called Grief & Corruption Parts 1-4 and an open letter blog to the man who murdered my Jace on there. Just in case someone is interested or can miraculously tell me how to get justice. Again, I think what you’re doing is incredibly amazing. 💛
Thank you so, so much for your comment here Aimee and for sharing your absolutely heart wrenching story. I’m profoundly sorry for EVERYTHING you’ve endured. I also think you’re 100% correct in that we’re never really “healed” from a loss. I say this all the time on my podcast as well, and I would never want to impost that on anyone! Honestly my mindset with Losses Become Gains is exactly what you expressed – there’s no actual “healed” state, and it’s certainly not to throw positivity at it and call it a day. That scar and trauma will always be with us. But, we can work with professionals (as you’re doing, which is so great!), etc. and take it a day at a time to find some semblance of peace amongst it all (whatever that even looks and feels like now, right?!). That’s why I say in this post we can “begin healing”, not that we’ll be “healed”. Sadly that’s not realistic for many of us, and with your situation especially, that makes complete sense 💔 Sending so much love to you, again I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through and continue to cope with every single day 😔